Every night (or at least on most nights), I take a few minutes to reflect on my day. Usually I do this as I lie in bed, before falling asleep. Two questions I consider are:
1) What was life-giving today?
2) What was life-draining today?
As I’ve practiced this nighttime ritual, I’ve become more aware of the rhythms and flow my life. I’ve recognized the things that tire me and energize me. This reflection habit also helps me to review my day, pay attention to emotions, practice gratitude, and be aware of the larger themes of my life. More and more, I am learning about what brings deep joy to my life, and creating space to experience those things in the midst of work, rest and family.
- Taking a nap
- Going outside for a walk
- Family time with my husband and son
- Doing one thing at a time
- Playing hide-and-go-seek with my son
- Time with my inner-most circle of friends
- Cooking and baking
- Getting at least 8 hours of sleep
- Massaging my shoulders and neck
- Meeting with my spiritual director
- Reading fiction
- Going out on a date with my husband
- Taking a hot bath
- Joining or guiding others in their pursuit of God
- Spontaneous dance parties
- De-cluttering and simplifying
- Visiting the farmer’s market
- Picking up clutter and mess around the house
- Comparing myself to others
- Taking a trip to the post-office
- Having more than one or two appointments/meetings on any given day
- Sitting in traffic
- Joyless, complaining, or self-focused people
- Shopping malls
- Waking up to the sound of garbage trucks at 6:30am
What are some of the life-giving or life-draining things in your life?